新年请正确对待爱

TIME:2021-09-03 | WRITER:admin

   新年回家，适婚年龄的我们总要面对一件逃不脱的事情：相亲。这些对象有的是亲戚介绍的，有的是朋友笼络的别的朋友。虽然我们很烦，但是也要领会他们的好心，毕竟现在都很着急找另一半，怕一错过，就没有心仪的对象，不过，敏言提醒大家，相亲归相亲，大家还是要正视自己的感情，不要因为着急，就凑合了一个对象，因为这不仅是对你不负责任，对对方也是不负责任。

   As I learn and practice more and more， I can say to the one I love： "Ilove you， I value you， Irespect you and I trust that you have the strength to become all that it ispossible for you to become — if I don't get in your way． I love you so much that I can set you free to walk beside me in joyand in sadness． I will share your tears but I will notask you not to cry． I will respond to your needs． I will care and comfort you， but I will nothold you up when you can walk alone． I will stand readyto be with you in your grief and loneliness but I will not take it away from you． I will strive to listen to your meaning as well as your word， but I shall not always agree． Sometimes Iwill be angry and when I am， I will try to tell youopenly so that I need not hate our differences or feel estranged． I can` not always be with you or hear what you say for there aretimes when I must listen to myself and care for myself， and when that happens I will be as honest with you as I can be．"

   随着我们学习和锻炼的增多，现在我会这样告诉我爱的人：“我爱你、珍惜你、尊重你，我相信你有足够的实力发展成为你想要成为的人——如果我不阻碍你的话。我是那么爱你，所以我给你自由，和我共享欢乐与悲伤。我会和你一起流泪，但我不会要求你停止哭泣。我会满足你的需要，关心你、安慰你，但在你能够独立行走时我不会阻挡你。我会时刻准备好，在你悲伤和孤独时站到你身边，但我不会把你的悲伤和孤独带走。我会尽力理解你的话语及其中涵义，但不会总是赞同。有时我会生气，当我生气时，我会尽量坦率地告诉你，这样我就不会对我们之间的分歧怀恨于心，产生疏远的感觉。我无法时刻与你在一起，或者听你诉说，因为有时我需要倾听自己，关心自己，当这些发生时，我会尽量告诉你。”

　  I am learning to say this， whether it be in words or in my way of being with others and myself， to those I love and for whom I care． Andthis I call loving with an open hand．I cannot alwayskeep my hands off the cocoon， but I am getting betterat it！

　  对于那些我所爱和所关心的人，我正在学习这样表达，无论是用语言，还是用我对待他人及自己的方式，我把这种方式叫做放爱一条生路。我不会总把双手从茧的身旁移开，但我正在逐渐进步！